What if he/she is married?

This is a difficult question and one frequently asked with much pain and anxiety involved. One must first ask whether this individual is married with the intention of staying married or whether they are legally separated or otherwise living apart pending a divorce. Obviously any of these conditions can apply and will require different answers. If the conscious intention is to stay married, then you first need to question what either of you are doing in this relationship and what you expect to receive from it. If, for example, you continue to harbor the dream that he or she will leave their spouse when this is clearly not so, then you are undoubtedly involved in a fantasy projection that has more to do with your own desires than with the actual state of the relationship. If, however, you both truly feel a soul bond and the other refuses to leave their spouse for reasons having more to do with loyalty or concern for the family or religious beliefs, then that is a conscious choice on his/her part requiring you to make choices for yourself: what do you want from a soul mate, will this relationship fulfill that need, is it violating either your morals or the other person's to remain in the relationship, can you be just friends, and who else is this affecting and in what way? The issue becomes less problematic, of course, if the marriage is more of a remaining formality before a divorce is finalized but there are many shades to the matter in general making it too complex to be answered fully in a generic fashion. Personal one-on-one counseling is required to resolve the conflicts involved.