Should I go ahead with the divorce?

Many of the considerations for this frequently asked question have already been addressed in the paragraph above, "Should I break up with him/her?" The implication, however, in the phrase "go ahead" is that one has already begun a process that one is now having second thoughts about. Anyone who has professionally counseled one or both of the partners in a pending divorce will recognize the hesitation commonly experienced part way through the process. This is natural and likely even to be desired. Divorce is not a decision that should be made lightly and it is important that someone considering this step should be as sure as they can be that they're making the right one. Often times it is not until you have actually begun the process that the reality of what you are doing hits you with full clarity. Feelings of fear and neediness can taunt us in the form of voices and warnings from our past, parents, trusted friends or authority figures who tell us that "something is better than nothing," or that "married people are generally more happy than single people," or that "maturity means learning to accept what you have rather than pine for what you don't." The fact that each statement is partially true or, rather, that each can be true under a particular set of circumstances, makes it even more difficult to discount them easily. In making your decision, however, none of these matters are really the point for this is the time to renew and refresh your commitment to what you have already begun. Go back through your reasons for deciding on the breakup as outlined above and remind yourself exactly why you set out on this course of action to begin with. If you're not convinced that you thought it through well enough the first time round then do it now; this is your second chance. Remind yourself that you are the one who has actually lived this relationship and not the people whose voices are representing your old beliefs. If you have not consulted the stars on the matter then now is the time to do so. Together we will go through your decision-making process and test to see if this is the right time to make such a choice. Nobody can tell you what you should or shouldn't do, that is completely up to you, but insightful counseling based on the cycles of life as reflected in the heavens can clarify for you that it is what you need to do at the time you need to do it.